My bridesmaid Kara told me that I should go to one bridal show just to get the experience, and that it should be the big one because they are all the same type of deal. In Detroit, our largest bridal show is the Novi Bridal Expo. I asked my mom and off we went.
I wasn’t really sure what to expect, but as it turns out, it’s the same as most other expos…tons of vendor booths. If you are far along in the process of planning your wedding there isn’t much to see unless you want to go for fun with your girlfriends for the cake samples.
When you first walk in, they have you fill out a card with your name, address, email and phone number. DO NOT WRITE YOUR REAL PHONE NUMBER. I never imagined the sheer volume of calls I would be receiving just from filling out that little yellow sheet of paper. The individual booths ask for your info when you visit them, so I only filled out my information at the vendor booths I was interested in. I was under the impression that these booths were the only people who would be calling me because I had specifically expressed interest in their services. What they don’t tell you is that the expo is sponsored by a number of vendors, and when you fill out your “registration form” in the front, the sponsors then get access to all of your information and will call you…and call you…and call you. It’s been months since the show and I just got a call from a tuxedo place this morning. Most of the places who call you are actually located at a call center out of state, so even if you do answer the call, you still have to make contact with whatever place they are calling on behalf of. (I’m looking at you, David’s Bridal.) This has basically been my nightmare because I hate talking on the phone. It’s very irritating to have to be asked to be taken off of a call list that you never thought you were on in the first place.
The part that I was most looking forward to at the expo was the fashion show. I LOVE fashion and we got a spot in the front row so I was pretty excited. Bridal gowns and bridesmaid dresses were featured from David’s Bridal. What a disaster. None of the models had been fitted properly. The dresses were all either skin tight, showing bulges on even the skinniest girls, or so loose that you could barely even tell what the shape of the dress was supposed to be. One of the DJ vendors was the emcee for the show, which could have been a really great platform for him to gain business. Another disaster. Not only did he make the entire show about himself, but the sound system would cut in and out and constantly get feedback from the speakers, which he didn’t even bother to try and fix. If anything, the bridal show was a who’s who of people not to use for your wedding.
There were two fashion shows, and we obviously didn’t stick around for the second one. I got something in the mail stating that during the second show I won some type of skin rejuvenation service from a cosmetic surgery center which I, once again, had not given my information to. They do tons of giveaways but you might end up with something that you can’t use.
Overall I’m glad I went…it was a fun day with my mom and there were some yummy food and cake samples to choose from. I do feel the same way that Kara does about it; you should go to one for the experience, but once you’ve seen one, there’s no need to go to another, and if you value your sanity, you’ll fake number that bitch.
My mom and I had a huge blowout of a fight a couple of months after I got engaged. The reason it got to be such a screamfest (okay I was the only one screaming) was because prior to that day, instead of nipping things in the bud that were bothering me, I didn’t say anything. I was attempting to keep the peace by not saying anything at all when she made comments I didn’t agree with, and by the end of a string of these comments, I completely lost my shit and let everything come out at once. I am a very outspoken person so not speaking my mind from the get was basically like poison to my brain. As soon as I let all of the toxic out, I felt relief, but I also felt sadness and guilt because of the scale of my reaction. Had I calmly stated my issues or put my foot down a little harder in prior conversations, I doubt it would have gotten to the point that it did.
One of my bridesmaids recently lost her job, and as I was thinking about where to shop for bridesmaid gowns, I started to realize that it was a possibility that she may drop out of the wedding due to the expense. I wouldn’t be replacing her, so I started thinking about how I would reorganize, where I would change my shower venue options to since the cost would be split between less people, etc. I wanted her to be in the wedding, but only if she really wanted to be in it. We are shopping for bridesmaid dresses in two weeks while my MOH Rachelle is in town, so I knew that I would have to get this figured out before we went shopping. We went out to lunch today and as it turns out, she is still going to be in the wedding, and I had been worried for the past week for nothing. My concerns were not irrational, but had I waited and not spoken to her about it, resentment may have built on both sides, and I would have gone on for months until the dresses were ordered, worrying that maybe she would drop out. Now that’s one less thing that I have to stress about.
I encourage you to think about what is bothering you and why, and tactfully discuss it with the person that it applies to, because stress causes outbursts, and it also causes wrinkles… and nobody needs wrinkles.
A lot of photographers are becoming increasingly concerned with people using their own cameras and phones to get their shots. Flashes going off at the wrong time and especially people who get up in your grill for pictures, ruin the professional ones (you know, the ones you pay a ton of money for…) Many photographers are suggesting that you have an “Unplugged Wedding,” meaning no technology besides what the professional photographer and videographer bring in. Personally I like the candid, funny shots that are sure to come from my goofball friends. In order to get the best photography possible, I am allowing cameras but I am speaking to, ahem, likely offenders* about getting in the way.